Pink Baby Shower Invitations

The Rules To Second Baby Showers

I think it is clear that the rule of thumb for anything but the first baby shower is, big gifts and big showers are for the first baby only. I, personally, don't think it's weird to have more showers as I know many people see it as, "celebrating this new kid," and nothing more. I do think it's weird (and rude) to have showers after the first kid and expect gifts. Maybe two if it is the opposite sex, but that is still stretching it.

But besides the different gender situation that's it for baby showers. If you have one for each kid it's seen as tacky.

People traditionally give gifts at baby showers because it's a way of helping the new mom get all of the many tools a new baby needs. Things like car seats, bottles, etc., the sort of things a first time mom doesn't have and the sort of thing a second time mom should already have.

After the first, I don't think gifting anything more than a (small) toy or stuffed animal is reasonable. In this case, a handmade blanket is a big gift because of the work that goes into it.

If the couple has taste, they will specify that they do not want/need more gifts for the baby. They can do this with simple baby sprinkle. Or if they really want to discourage gifts they can do a gender reveal baby sprinkle. This is a good explanation of what a gender reveal in the context of a baby sprinkle is.

Even if the shower is for a first time mother that doesn't mean that it should be set up like a gift grab. However, just look at it as celebration for your baby in which you could receive some gifts, but also not.

I don't think the shower was ever intended for gift-grabbing.

I think it's more so of a celebration of your new arrival. You're not crowd funding your baby by having a shower, you are just celebrating in a perfectly socially accepted way, the way rich and poor people alike do.

Opening the Gifts Is Tradition

It is pretty typical to open gifts in front of guests at any sort of baby shower.

The purpose of them is to shower the guest of honor with gifts. They want to see your face when you open them. It's just the tradition. If you don't want to open presents around people make sure to have lots of activities and games because gift opening will be something that guests are expecting.

So you'll want to keep them busy.

There are however instances where you will want to skip this. This really depends on the type of person mommy-to-be is.

Our best advice.

If it makes you feel totally uncomfortable, DON'T DO IT! It's YOUR day. You can ask people to do clear wrap, or claim you want to be "eco friendly" and ask people to skip paper. When your guests arrive, meet them at the door, accept the gift/open the card, ooh and ahh and have one of your friends note the gift/giver and arrange them all to make a pretty display table.

You can take this even further; have the guests play a game while your opening presents, so that way your not the full center of attention. Not a game that needs everyone's attention, but can keep a couple people busy at a time. This way you won't feel awkward, with everyone just staring at you while you open presents. In toehr words, you can only say "awww" or "so cute!" or "I love it" so many times before it gets old.

So if you motto is: "I hate being the center of attention!"

At one shower we attended guests filled out their own bingo cards with what they thought the mother to be got and would mark them as she opened presents. It definitely steered some of the attention off mom since everyone was focusing on the game too.

Another way to get around it is have them bring the gift unwrapped. Then just have a display table. I've seen it done at bridal showers, but there's always some that are wrapped anyways.

Typically they want to watch you open up the gifts. At one baby shower one guest was hating on all the games we were planning and kept asking when we would just open the presents already.

I Think The Colors Are All Mixed Up

I think that the color schemes are totally mixed up when it comes to baby showers.

I love telling people how recent the idea of pink for girls/blue for boys is, because you can bet anyone who is a stickler for the concept has no idea that early 20th century boys wore pink because it was the more masculine color.

This has always always been one of my favorite facts! Correct me if I'm wrong, please, but wasn't that because blue represented purity and pink was derived from red (blood, battles, and all that jazz, some conditions may apply.)?

More on point, OP, the colors you chose do sound quite neutral and more than likely look lovely together; most stereotypical boy colors seem to be more bold and pigmented rather than "baby" or a pastel such as mint.

If you're afraid of soon-to-be-grandma-Meg's opinion, perhaps as suggested above, give the gift before the party? Personally, I might contact Melissa asking how the party is shaping up, if she needs any help, and mention how much I enjoyed making baby's present and how the time it took was SO worth it, but that I was a touch worried that the colors might not be "feminine enough" in the eyes of some of our family. If she agrees someone might put up a stink that it's not pink, maybe meet for a bite to eat and give her the blanket there, then pick up a smaller gift that is more run-of-the-mill for the actual party.

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